Long term marriage - husband quit!

[bugsby]

Had my first "he left you for another woman who is better than you" dream. Heard of these, but never had one before.

What a horrible thing. If you could find out information about the OW, should I do it? I know the book says (DR) to basically ignore her and not think about this situation.

I am afraid any info I get may blow up in my face, seen as "control". Other advice I have read is "get a background/financial check" if you can. Too see if there are other motives.

I am worried about this. I am an artist, and when I SEE them together, or a picture of them together, it is really going to be a life changer for me. So I am doing the best to prepare myself...

Thanks,
BGS