Okay, here is my draft, bit of a rough night tonight. Inadvertently came across email where my W stated the M was over and was asking for advice on how to divide up assets. I know that is obviously how she feels, because that's how she is acting. Just hurts, a lot. A kick in the ass for me though. Anyways, here is my letter. I'm not sure if I should mention anything about wanting a relationship, I'm sure she knows that already. Also not sure if I should talk about bit being friends, don't want to be threatening. Am I keeping the road paved? There's enough roadblocks already on it
Dear WAW,
Thank you for sending me your email. I appreciated the insight you provided for me. It is apparent that running the household with the lifestyle we had and the number of things we had going on was both overwhelming and incredibly difficult. I think you did a great job and I am sorry that you did not feel you had my full support and backing with the parenting of our children, and the way in which we ran our house. I'm sorry that I didn't listen as well as I should have. These are regrets for me.
The last several months have allowed me to realize what is important to me and what I value in my life. I have been afforded the opportunity to become closer with my children, and I have realized I have made several mistakes. I plan to utilize the new tools I have for communication, and the lifestyle changes I am making are permanent.
Going forward, it was my hope to be able to create a new relationship with you, as our old marriage was not functional. I understand you need to have your own space and identity, and support in order to realize your full potential. The sacrifice you made to start our family will always be remembered. A healthy WAW is integral to the well being of everyone in this family.
I understand that your intentions and wishes are different than mine, and I respect them, as we both move forward. While a divorce is not what I would like to happen, I will not stand in the way of your wishes. While we will not be friends in this new chapter of our lives, I want to ensure we communicate effectively for the kids well being.
