I'm sure it soothes her conscience to think that she could have a "respectable" divorce.
Do you have any child experts in your panel of resources that could give guidance? For example, our elementary school has a phenomenal guidance counselor. A pastor or Christian Ed person from your church? Anyone who could be an advocate for your son, that might be neutral from you?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15