Hi FY, I agree with rky about not rushing. I really think the worse thing that happened in my sitch was my getting advice to push when I was on another site before finding DB. In my case, outside forces (her father and his illness and his pushing her to leave) added to her feelings of pressure and caused her to act on moving forward with leaving. If left alone, she may have been able to stay longer. Your w at this point doesn't seem to have any outside force pushing her to move. She may not yet want what you do, a renewed M, but is at least content enough to not just give up totally, at least not yet.
I think the best thing you have going for you at this time is that there isn't an outside influence telling your W to go. No friends saying she should leave, no OP promising a "better" life, no family members telling her that you're no good and she is better off on her own. The only influence at this point is what her mind is telling her and that which you choose to put on her, ie what your expectations of your M should be and how that isn't the case.
The more comfortable you can make her when she is with you, the better off you'll be.
