Is this a set-up? Should I write down what her emotionally needs are? All I know are the basic needs support, love, listening (validation), comfort, compliments, etc. This request feels dangerous.
Yeah, it's pretty much a set-up. Do you know why she is telling you to write down her emotional needs? My guess would be to prove you don't know. And you don't.
Women want to feel a connection with their man. If she feels emotionally connected with you then she is ready to have the physical connection. The worst mistake was moving out of the master bedroom. There is a lot to be said for an old expression...."pillow talk". That is when a lot of women feel that connection.
IMO, your W is a WAW in an A. That means it makes things more difficult than just a walk away spouse who doesn't have another person in their head. She is turning to OM trying to get what she feels you've neglected. I'm not saying she's right, I'm just telling you what she's doing. She is getting something emotionally from OM, and she has you as her house boy.
She seems very angry and disrespectful, which goes hand in hand with the WAW in an A. She is pushing your buttons b/c she is so angry at you. You have disappointed her as a H. It took a while, but now she's mad and fed up. She wants you out of there. But of course, don't leave.
If you are still using the same answers to what she says........let me tell ya, it ain't working for ya. First of all, stop kissing her rear!! Secondly, stop telling her you love her. Don't be a dog waiting around to see if she pats your head. You need a different plan of action.
So, I'll ask you again, what are you getting out of this arrangement with her?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
