Not read through your whole sitch but sounds like you have been on one heck of a ride......but going back to 25's post:
"So Matt, what are your 180s? Remember that they are not about getting your wife back. The 180s are for your own self improvement (although yes, they are dramatic by their very nature--the opposite of what you usually did/said--so they are more noticed by a WAS)- but the goal of the 180s is personal growth on YOUR end."
....and your response.....
"My biggest 180 is this, I don't care if I ever see my W again".
Is that ^^^ really your personal growth? Appreciate you were probably just venting but you need to lose the victim asap and the reading your W.....it will destroy you eventually (been there done that!) and does not sound like someone looking deep within to work on their own issues.
So what are your issues and 180's? I don't mean the quick wins like I never did the housework and now I do it, but the serious stuff, personality traits, flaws, the things that you really have to dig deep to discover and are often the hardest to change? How are you growing?
