Good, b/c she should see you being stronger and you need to feel that you are. FWIW, it is not the easy times that make us strong, but rather the bad ones.
The same can be said about building faith in God. As a child, it didn't require much faith for me to believe in God. But it was when I grew up and faced some scary times that I learned really how to apply my faith in Him. And with each experience, my faith increased! If I had never had a problem in life........there would be no need to have faith.
Life is going to hand us bad times along our journey. We can face it as a strong person who has dignity, integrity, honor, values, standards, boundaries, etc. Or, we can try to hide in fear, shame, regret, self-loathing, ....and the list goes on. Sometimes we have no choice in the hand we are dealt, but we do choose how to respond to it. As a woman who was raised in a traditional family, I was blessed with the strong male leadership of my father. I actually did not fully realize the extent of his influence until he passed away. It's been over 28 yrs ago, and his influence in my life is still effective . It never ends.
Of course, my mother was a strong role model for me, too. But since you are the man here, I wanted to encourage you to not give up being a good leader for your family.....especially your children. Stand up for what is right and don't compromise with what you know is wrong. Your W will respect you for it, and your children will learn from it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
