Really? You were "devasted"? Why not just celebrate before she leaves for her trip? Wouldn't that be better than taking personal offense or resenting it?
What she said about you being so persistent in having things your way. Is she correct? If she is, it might explain why she is still resisting returning (if things with OM are over). She could be trying to hold on to a few strings of living (in her way of thinking) free of the domineering affect of giving in to whatever you want. IDK. I'm not siding with her or saying it's right, but it makes a little sense......if you truly insist on having your way on things.
I have had suspicions of why she won't surrender her phone, but if A is really over, then she may feel that this is one thing she has control over and doesn't want to share, again....IDK.
Honestly, if it were me, I might take a trip without my H to decide if I really wanted back into that MR where I felt I was always giving over to him......to keep the peace.
Peter, this is your opportunity to show her you will not persist she does what you prefer. Don't try to talk her out of it. If she sees you willingly letting her go, then she may agree to celebrate the occasions early. You want her leaving on a good note and having happy memories while deciding about the M.
There is "something" that is holding her back. This seems to reveal why she is resenting you on some levels.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
