Still unsure where you feel I am accepting his crumbs? I didn't see him toss out any cookies either.
I remember shortly after I first started posting to you, I quoted a statement you had made....and then I simply asked you why. You had made references about fearing you would rush him. And I asked why you were afraid. Here's what I saw you do: You tuned out what others were saying and even the rest of what I had said, and focused on one word. I sat back quietly watching you make a MOUNTAIN out of me asking you "why".
You are doing it again, Magic. A poster made a small comment at the end of a post, and you are not really hearing anything else. You are obsessing over ONE WORD!!!
I am going to make a suggestion and I am dead serious about it. I think you should get professional help with this problem you have with obsessiving. It seems to be a very large stumbling block. It affects your ability to retain information from what you read. (Was this a problem when you were younger, in school, etc.?). How much has it affected relationships in your life.
Living and/or working with a person who obsesses to the extent you seem to do could really be challenging for the other person. I have to wonder if that is why you can't let go and move forward, and why you take every little action from him and analyze it to death.
If this Is something you can't seem to control, it must be hell for you! You are trying hard to not act upon your feelings, but your brain can't stop spinning. I can't imagine the exhaustion you have experienced in one day. I don't know how you are able to drift off to sleep at night.
If this is true, then my heart goes out to you and I wish I could give you a hug. Seriously, I am very concerned about you. Have you ever had any type of therapy in the past, or taken medication? Have you ever been tested for adult ADD?
I know you take a lot of heat from frustrated posters trying to make a breakthrough. I think you admitted to having a communication problem. Have you ever tried to get some type of help to see why? I mean, you are an intelligent woman, Magic, but there just seems to be something hindering. Yes, you seem very co-dependent! Maybe a good therapist could help you. Maybe an evaluation could be done to see if you are living with an added burden ......and get help.
Now I did not say all of that to add worry on top of your stress. I hope you won't think I am being unkind. I just believe it would help you to at least get into therapy to deal with your stitch, and get some peace of mind.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
