Cadet - I thought about this and you know - it would be inauthentic for me to do this.

I agree about 180s in general, but I am not sure of the consequences in this case. Although my xh does not respect my feelings, that does not make it OK to behave as if he has none,

We are counselled, very wisely, not to do things 'strategically' and this would be strategic.

A bit of me quite likes the thought though!!