I wish I had an answer.. Xh sais: the day I almost left him is the day I changed him. In a text exange, I replied: you didn' t want to lose us so you left!! smart move??
The bond? That is from all the history of creating a life together that lasted for years. I think there will always be a part of us who will love THE PERSON THEY WERE. it is part of the unconditional, I guess. I always said I loved my husband but I dispie who is has become. I would take my husband back in a heartbeat, but that man is longgggggg gone. I mourned him and I miss him. I don' t see him ever become a better person than what he was. He has created too much damage for himself to face.
Like you, I look at what we have and thank God for looking out for us. We are ok to The only situation that is not ok is in regard of XH.I don' t believe there is anything I could do to stop it. I believe he is the only one who can put an end to this madness.
