I am doing the 180 for me and me alone. I am the only one who can fix me.
I have no idea if this 180 will work or if my husband will ever decide to change too. This takes a long time! But one thing is clear, I am doing this for me. If he comes around, then that's a bonus, but frankly I am busting butt for myself and not him. I have this outlook because I never want to wait on him again. I have life to live. And I am beautiful, smart and full of laughter and fun! About time I started living that way, huh?
From reading all the positive statements you've made about yourself, your 180 is working. You are changing in a healthy, positive way.
As for him... Let it go and detach. Breathe and don't worry. What will be, will be. And when it's finally time, you will be so much better off that no matter what happens, you will be alright with it. But I think you already know that.
Me: 43 Her: 37 D: 4 T: 20 years M: 15 years 1st Separation: 12/20/06 Drew up papers for D: 9/15/07 Reconciled: 11/1/07
