This is going to sound silly, but you've been on my mind a lot the past 2-3 weeks. Can't explain why. I even tried looking you up on FB to send a message to see how you were doing, but no luck. I'm glad you stopped by and posted.
I'm glad that your surgery went well.
Wow, I can't tell you how much I can relate to just about everything you posted.....even down to the writing. I've actually been thinking about rewriting the book that I wrote just because I wasn't really happy with it and there were so many grammatical/punctuation errors in it. Maybe I will someday. I have started a sequel to it, but have kind of hit a road block.
I also know what you are saying about the summer months. I'm the same way except for me, it is fall. That's when we met, fell in love, all the good memories but.....it is also the time of year that I got the bomb. (October.)
I'm also coming up on 4 years and thought that I would be "better" or "over it" by now. Yes, like you, I am better, but not where I want to be or think I should be. Some days are better than others, but of course, you know that too.
I too sometimes (not sure why) have a desire to contact XW, but like you said, what's the point? It makes me angry at myself sometimes for even wanting to contact her. Hell, she is married. I think it is the fact that he/she was such a big part of our lives. Even though they dropped us like hot potatoes and were so darn mean, they were still a big part of life.
Don't feel "guilty" about not being better by now. You're not the only one.
Atleast you have your writing to keep you busy and to keep your mind of off things. I'd like to read some of your writing sometime. I'm a big-time reader. I haven't read too horribly much since this all started (except for these boards) but need to pick it up again. I've read just about everything by Stephen King.
Anyways, thanks for the update. Take care and don't be a stranger.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13