So I'm frustrated that I can't fake the PMA with him ( he knows me too well most if the time) but I did try to deflect what upset me.
The flip side of this is once you do make it to REAL PMA and detachment, H will notice that too! So just keep moving forward in your own life.
Like my W and I, you guys met as kids. We really didn't have ANY life without our spouse, once you take out childhood. We had, and on some level still have, a special bond. So it's no surprise we can't get away with faking something with them. But this goes both ways. I'd bet he'd be hard pressed to fake something past you! Plus, women are usually more perceptive, and have sharper intuition than us guys.
So, instead of feeling frustrated that he figured out you were fretting over something, find a way to use this dynamic to your advantage. What would you rather he see when he looks at you? My suggestion would be strength.
Remember how proud he was of you for showing strength? You're the prize. If he wants you he'll have to catch up! <<< Show him that.
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Positives are his desire to hang with family instead of friends. That's a bit of a change.
That is a positive. Usually friends are considered way more fun to a partner is in crisis. The fact that he constantly is concerned how you are doing is a bit unusual too. Why do you suppose he does that?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
