Sex was great, part 2

[GoatGal]

For the record, the Asperger's thing is only relevant because, if it applies, it might provide an explanation for the way Grey is having difficulty processing his situation, as well as some difficulty processing the input he is getting from all of us.

It would explain the frustration we all feel, trying to talk to someone who seems to see things in very concrete terms and keeps going around and around without making any headway.

And I think we can all agree something is amiss in the translation here.

(Grey--do NOT take this personally. I don't know you... but I feel your suffering, I really do. There is something you're not taking away from all this, something is missing. A.S. is only my guess because I see the same issues in myself. It is not a failing of yours, only a way of thinking that, even if it's not AS, is not the "general" way most people approach this type of thing. )

So it's a possible explanation for why Grey seems "stuck" in the thinking loop, and having difficulty seeing things from another perspective. That is the number one difficulty AS folks have, as a rule.

It is NOT an excuse, but just something to help him understand himself better, thereby improving his relationships with everyone.

I don't think it's helpful to tell him he's selfish and needs to go have a wank... I don't think that's it. Clearly he is distraught and clearly he is reaching out for support.

It's just not getting through on the normal channels.

But---if it does apply---it absolutely would be affecting his marriage in ways he might not consciously pick up on without some serious introspection.


As someone who often misses the obvious, complicates the simple, simplifies the complicated, and takes the microscopic view of things as a rule, my heart goes out to him in ways that might seem inexplicable to others here.

Just my two cents.

Which is worth exactly that!

---GGG