No problem Dawgy. Yeah they can be in a fog for sure. It also helps me to write to you my suggestions. Gives me a chance to put my thoughts into concrete actions. I can tell you that before D day I was in a fog too - not paying attention to her needs, too busy to spend the time with her she wanted. I'm a changed man now. Stopped rushing around. Stopped filling my plate with stuff. Now she resents that I have time in the evenings to sit and read. I told her that spare time that I spend reading in the evenings for lack of anything else to do, is being reserved for her if she comes home. She didn't really respond to that one, but I'll bet she took it in. We're spending more and more time together. Just chatting. Some therapists say you need 8 hours a week, others say 15 hours a week to fill the love bucket. I recommend a book called His Needs Her Needs. Good to put things in perspective.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
