She says she's conflicted

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"The issue is the fact that she fell for a fake phony fraud, and was more interested in his happy go lucky con man life style is what bothers me more than what she may or may not have done with him."

You really need to let this go. If it's not him it will be someone else.

I agree, but she said she was not looking.
I get hung up because he was the first man she befriended that had no relation to us, our friends, work etc...