You need to focus on YOU. And only YOU. Laugh a lot, have a blast with your kiddos! Go to the YMCA, swim, dance, play.
Focus on ALL aspects which are not in conflict.
And keep busy!
You can do this!
PS: I am here as a women who Wants a divorce and has 180's it to a new life. I am still married. I have put divorce on hold because my H is starting to show his true beautiful self in small ways. I am VERY proud of him! I still 180 Every day! I laugh, work, play, have a TON of friends.
Volunteering is great! Great way to involve your kids in something awesome and become part of your community.
Just make sure it involves rescue kitties, ok
Seriously, get out there and nurture you. YOU deserve a chance at an amazing life! And your kids do too!