Today's ordeal could, as horrible as it is, be the very experience that gives our children successful families someday.
As I read this, I'm reminded of two ideas 1) the sins of the father...to the fourth generation and 2) we all have choices.
The latter is important. We can't help what our parents did. We may have to pay for it in some way, but when you boil it down, that's life.
We, as humans, have choices. We get to make and be accountable for our choices. Sometimes that's scary and other times that's the most wonderful gift we can have. All about perspective I think.
There's a lot that goes on at the breakup of a marriage. Our own emotions, our ex spouses, our kids, our family, our friends, etc.. Part of the growth is learning handle all of that and take on no more than our part.
And it also highlights that forgiveness is for more than just those that have wronged us in this life
Heather, your mom did the best she could with what she knew. I don't know her background, but it's likely her mom did the best she could, and so on back in your family history. I have to wonder if she didn't worry about you in the same way. Maybe not outwardly...
Matt, you have a lot to think about as well. Heather's post helps to highlight some of the things you may be thinking of.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
