Newbie needs help

[pilot]

Tough call. Perhaps going over your budget with her. Be careful not to seem controlling, but at the same time, protect yourself financially. Wait for another to chime in on this one. I am not sure I know the right move....

[igit]

Hasn't worn vc. For me in long time now she is getting hair done every other week $130 vc.$200, kids camps every week for last 3weeks, starting to see the waw. Mlc. Patterns.more clear. I just think a reality check on consequences of what she is doing is gone to hit her between eyes. No job, a divorced m of 3 adorable kids that she is going to put a huge period of unhappiness for everyone except her of course, because she will be a liberated woman on her own. Just venting but alot of truth

[igit]

Called today and said she needs to go somewhere tonight.said she will pick up kids at grad. Party tommorow, but wants to go out to dinner with family before she go s out to sin. I told her she didn't need to stick around for dinner.

[pilot]

Wait...what? You declined her invitation to have a family dinner after one of your kid's graduation party?

[Jessa]

You need to focus on YOU. And only YOU. Laugh a lot, have a blast with your kiddos! Go to the YMCA, swim, dance, play.

Focus on ALL aspects which are not in conflict.

And keep busy!

You can do this!

PS: I am here as a women who Wants a divorce and has 180's it to a new life. I am still married. I have put divorce on hold because my H is starting to show his true beautiful self in small ways. I am VERY proud of him! I still 180 Every day! I laugh, work, play, have a TON of friends.

Volunteering is great! Great way to involve your kids in something awesome and become part of your community.

Just make sure it involves rescue kitties, ok

Seriously, get out there and nurture you. YOU deserve a chance at an amazing life! And your kids do too!

[igit]

No. We had plans to go to my nieces grad. Party tomorrow 2 hours away. She called and said let's talk about this weekend. She said she needs to get out of home and go somewhere tonight. She left last night at 10pm and came home at 8am today. So more of the same. Then she said I take kids to grad.party and she will come up and get kids from party. I have to leave from there sat. Night for a bus.meeting sunday. Dinner was suggested by her for family tonight. What's a lbs supposed to do

[pilot]

Tough call. Having a family dinner and you putting your best foot forward can be a benefit true. She may be cake eating. I dont know. You have to make the call. It maybe one of those times you decline her invitation.

I know I am no help on this one...sorry.

[igit]

I know what you mean. I really do feel bad for her rite now. She is feeling guilt for sure. Hasn't spent much time with kids at all.they have been whiny. Now she is leaving again for the night. I know she expects me to be angry. I am going to 180 and be pleasant and act as is. My daughter will be upset she is not going to grad.party w family.

[igit]

I may let kids decide. They may not be hungry on her schedule.

[pilot]

Do what you have to for your kids. Relationship and DB be damned. Kids are always first. If your D wants to have a family dinner then have a family dinner. If it was just your W pushing it, then I would not feel the pressure.