Job, you may be right, what he wants is a level of contact that he wants when he wants it. So yes, if I started emailing and calling him a lot he would probably withdraw. Difference is (as you know) is that if he SAID, please could you not call me, I would respect that.
Bottom line is that he would like things to be 'normal' between us, whatever that means. We would hang out together, with OW2, and everyone acts as if none of this had ever happened. Except as my eldest son said - xh does normal for about an hour before the cracks show.
I had a real whinge from him last time we spoke about our lack of a relationship, to which I politely replied that it was his decision to end it.
