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If you need Mr Bond, find where he posted last and leave him a note.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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labug you are so rite. I have done so much more for w since this crisis began. she had a coaching job this spring and I went to work early so I could pick them up after school and then cooked, cleaned dishes etc... 10 weekends in a row while she was at track meet took care of them. Have done a majority of dishes and 50% of cooking. wife is trying to find a teaching job so I have given her so much time to focus on that. I just feel like I am worn out and a little frustrated. I do know she is watching me and I would think she sees a different man. More focused on kids, a big effort to attach with God <bible study, prayers with twins before bed etc...> something that was missing in our M. The crazy thing is we get along well and have always made major decisions together. I know this is a marathon not a sprint! I need to stay focused on kids and faith, and keep working on myself. she did tell me this morning that she thought boys loved my bedtime story last night. I guess I need to be the best I can and make every conversation with her as pleasant as possible. thanks for your post


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T 19
M 17
D 12
Twin S 6
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Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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mrbond can you catch up on my thread and catch up any help would be appreciated
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Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
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mrbond not sure if you catch up on my thread .your advice seems to fit my mission


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Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
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Sumons served 8/14/14

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Wife came into my room tonight and said she had to leave for a few days. It's 10pm I have to work at 8am, 3 kids at home 11, and twins 6. She was not angry she seems depressed said she needs to be alone rite now. I showed her compassion gave her a hug and told her to be careful. I guess the only thing I can do is be strong.


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Twin S 6
Twin S 6
Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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Sorry to hear that Igit. Time to man up and be strong for you kids right now. I think you handled it well though. Hopefully she goes away and finds herself. I wish you the best of luck!


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Good job. Let her go. If you would of bitched and moaned, she would have resented you for it and probably gone anyway.

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Rough night didn't get much sleep. Wife txt me last night. Said she would be home to watch kids by 8 to watch kids. I had to leave at 730 for work. I stopped home aft er 9 am meeting to check on her and kids. She was sleeping in her room I stopped in to check on her. She was somewhat stand offish.and asked if she could sleep. I am going to stay w kids and take them swimming . I am concerned about wifes comments last night that kids don't need her. She doesn't think one of them loves her. I was going to ask her why she feels that way. If she thinks that's healthy. Any suggestions.


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Twin S 6
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Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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leave it alone. Let your wife run through her gauntlet of emotions on her own. I would not approach her but that is just me. Maybe someone else will say different?


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S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
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Just notice Credit card bills. She has been spending way too much. Salons, Victoria secret. Put 900 buck deposit for her eye lid surgery. I am thinking of canceling credit card changing checking acct. To get control maybe leave her gas card and cash budget for kids. Any thoughts


M 54
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T 19
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Twin S 6
Twin S 6
Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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