Bea, Restraining orders are good, if the person is willing to abide by them. In some cases, the individual becomes far worse and doesn't care about the restraining order. It all depends upon the "offender" and how far gone they are. It's just my opinion and that is based on what I've seen in my area.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
