Your situation sounds somewhat similar to mine, although not completely.
GAL - working on it.
MLP, I went back and read your thread. Yes, there are some similarities. Looking like a happy family, the kids not knowing. And truth is, for me, if I didn't know he was having an affair and wanted to leave, I'd be pretty happy with our life. The main thing missing is little acts of physical affection (hugs, pats, goodbye kisses), that and not saying "I love you", which we used to do a lot. We still talk about things that are not the relationship - work, news, kids, sports. We still do a lot of family things together. We still sleep in the same bed. The whole thing is just weird.
We have a family vacation planned for next week, a cruise to celebrate the graduation. It was his idea and he planned the whole thing. While he was seeing OW and plotting to leave. That thought process is beyond me.
I'm having a lot of trouble with GAL. It's not that I don't know what to do, I just am not making the time. Last night I had planned to go to a wine tasting but then D11 asked me to take her shopping so she could get some things for the cruise. The same reasons I wasn't paying enough attention to the M (3 kids, full-time job, house) are the same reasons I'm not GAL-ing. How do the rest of you do it?
