Sadly my ex didn't want the kids other than what was mandated by the courts. His affair partner/new wife has her own two kids. They schedule the kids so they are kid free every other weekend. Since my oldest two have refused to spend weekends with them, I haven't had a kid free weekend since the divorce.
I suppose I could say it worked out for me in that way because I have been so lucky having them. I am sorry that I don't have any advice there. Just don't let this become so crazy that the kids get lost in the chaos.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory