That post was a little strongly worded. It is probably more accurate to say that although the last 2-3 years have been not very good at all, and the years before that were sometimes good and sometimes a disappointment, a fair amount of the disappointment was a combination of poor skills and unreasonable expectations on both sides. Add way too much upheaval and the crash was probably inevitable.
I do like him, love him, and miss our potential as a couple. I can't think of what it's been like to live with him the last few years and want him home, though.
I have decided that if he asks again then I will have dinner with him, in the interest of our future as co-parents. No expectations. Just somebody I will always know.
As an aside... I am enjoying our vacation but my mom drives me slightly crazy. She SO sweats the small stuff. Years ago I made a specific effort to not be like that, but I find myself wondering how many other of her unhealthy habits I have adopted without noticing. She is enormously critical and can be overbearing. She isn't above bullying people. She doesn't listen well at all. She thinks she's always right but she is a shallow thinker. Her world is very small and everyone is out to get her.
After almost a week of living with her and chafing against it I can't help but wonder... How much is this what I'm like???
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
