My H's MLC

[GoatGal]

Ggrass,


I swear with my H there are three people active in there.

There is my 63 year old husband, the man I love, the man I married,

There is a 5-7 year old boy who talks to me like a child,

And there is a 13-15 year old teenager who is sullen, argumentative, selfish, and stubborn. And totally hormonal.


I think you are RIGHT.

When a lot of my sitch went down, I felt like I was NOT dealing with the grown man with whom I had shared my life. I still feel like he is 75% absent.
And I can't deal with these "alter-egos" who show up, defending his actions. There is no reasoning with them!


The way he screamed "I wanna DI-VORCE. I wanna Di-VORCE, I wanna DI-VORCE!" with fingers in the ears, no less.. I really felt like I was dealing with a little boy.
It was not rational. It was not to be believed.

The guy who was chasing around OW and meanwhile, back at home, acting sullen, entitled, irritable, and "you're just invading my PRIVACY!!!" was like a teenaged boy.


I've thought this many times before.

I feel like HIS MOTHER for Pete's sake!

RARELY have I seen an adult man who is able to put his emotions into words and explain to me WHY he wants a divorce and what will be better for him because of it.
I wish he would make an appearance and perhaps offer an explanation...

So far? Not once.

Which is why I pretty much discount anything I hear said in a child/teen's voice.

I will ONLY listen to the adult man, and even then, take it with a really BIG grain of salt!!


---GG