No... I don't blame her at all. For me, the learning experience was that DB'ing is like AA. You are never cured and you cannot stop working on it. The moment I got complacent with one, I got complacent with the other.
Neither one of us is dating.
I'm working on the Dad thing... The healing thing is more about being the Best Dad possible and less about GAL. When I said I was GAL, I meant that I wasn't focusing on the W, the M and the possibilty of R right now. That is something for the future, if that is what the future holds.
UPDATE: I just had a 25 minute phone conversation with the W about my 4 year old D and visitation. This is the latest in an ongoing discussion that has happened via text. Which has left me looking desparate and pitiful when I go back and read the text over. I believe that the ability to actually listen to the other person and hear the underlying emotion made a lot of difference, maybe moreso for me. I paid attention to my Do's and my Dont's and focused on keeping my end of the conversation in the right place. At the same time, I also listened to what she was saying and didn't fly off and respond to some of the things that would have caused an argument in the past. It's early, this call will be one of many but it was a chance to really focus on keeping my head in the right place, while respecting both our feelings and needs.
What will it take to be simply irresistable again? A whole bunch of 180's!!!
Me: 43 Her: 37 D: 4 T: 20 years M: 15 years 1st Separation: 12/20/06 Drew up papers for D: 9/15/07 Reconciled: 11/1/07
