I'm back from my week away. The kids and I had a nice time. Dh and I texted some days, and didn't some days.
After I got back, I suggested that we postpone our next MC session to pursue some IC. But my caveat on it was that if he was thinking about moving out soon, then we needed the MC session to decide details and how to present it to the kids. He said we could postpone. That relieves a lot of my stress, I was very concerned that he'd take me by surprise by moving out at the end of the summer without having discussed it with me first. And he still might, but he's promised we will discuss it with MC first, so that we can sit down with the kids together. I'm just hoping it won't come down to that.
So, for those of you who have pursued IC for yourselves, what is it exactly that I am supposed to be working on? I'm not trying to decide whether to stay in the marriage or not, the answer is yes. His list of grievances came down to 10lbs and a messy closet. I don't know that I need therapy for either of those. I don't mean to be flip, or pretend that I didn't share any blame for the breakdown of the marriage, I could just really use some guidance on what IC is all about.
