While some people are accused of saying MLC because they dont want to face reality, personally it was not the answer i was looking for even though it was blatantly obvious in my situation. It isnt something i would wish on my worst enemy.
Cat04, I'm curious why you're so adamant to insinuate that it's not. Although I am no psychiatrist nor do I have a medical degree, my H is showing all the tell tale signs. He has the constant feeling of wanting to run. He is anxious, uncomfortable, around us and his entire immediate family (who he was always very close to). He has stopped talking to his parents, his brothers or anyone else he was close to. He is irrational, extremely irritable and all over the place. The things he says and does remind me and his family of a 17 year old.
He retained a lawyer but hasn't told anyone. When we're with friends and family he acts as if all is perfectly normal between us... and he's the one who makes the plans when we do see others (I don't ask him if he'll come or try to get him to go anywhere with us). He goes out every night then comes home and drinks and cries for an hour or 2 before coming up to bed. At times he talks about the future as if things are normal (fixing the closet, making more room for all the new clothes he's buying) and then says he's moving out. He says things like he's running out of time and he has to make changes NOW in order to be happy. He can't wait another day and that's why he has to divorce. He needs to restart everything so he can be happy again. He once had an inexplainable bond with my daughter and now she just stares at him and is uncomfortable around him because of how strange he behaves. This is all coming from someone who in our circle of friends was teased and known as "Super Dad".
Right now he only sees and talks about himself and how he feels, how this will all effect him, what he needs, what he wants.. completely discarding, forget me, but his kids. He has done a complete 180. I could go on and on and on.. the shopping, the nose job, the new sports car he's getting, the new life he keeps talking about... he is the poster child for MLC.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home
