I'm still in moderation, so not sure how quickly this will show. Just a thought, I am very hesitant to show my h any positive attention, because it seems that once I start to relax my guard in any small way, he wants to take it further than I do. I would like sometimes to be able to relax and have pleasant interactions and leave it at that, but he always wants to push for more. So I clam up. Try hard not to be pleasant (not necessarily unpleasant), just not give him any false hope. Just a bit of insight from the other side. I hope it's helpful.
