Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE who I have talked to says :"he'll regret this. He'll want to come back and it'll be too late." Mostly men tell me this-they either lived it themselves or know other men who have done it.
So, I'm willing to bet you would be told the same thing.
At first I thought, "it won't be too late- I want my H back!" Now I'm thinking, "it will be too late!" And that makes me sad because it's true.
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
When he came round last week and he mentioned he was going to come back, I knee jerked into your never coming back. I just don't know if its what I want. He is still having an a tho and his actions aren't about coming back.
It's a tough hard road. My thoughts today are single life to do what I would like isn't so bad.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Just got an invitation from H to go to dinner this week. What planet is he living on?!?!
I declined politely, btw. Told him I appreciated the thought but couldn't. I'm not tellin him my "buddy" stance any more.
He may just want to discuss business, but I don't need the whole mask of "hangin out" for that. He may jus be testing the waters, who knows?!?! Uhhhhhh, no.
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
I am not filing separation for 2 reasons: 1. They would immediately go after XH1 and up his support if I apply for public assistance. This has nothing to do with him, and I would be mortified if he knew what was going on. Trust me when I say my D12 is taken care of. 2. I'm not going to be the "plaintiff".
I told H about issue #1. He said he understood. I did not mention #2 and will not until he mentions it again.
I told him I don't want to move- it would be unbelievably overwhelming and near impossible to manage while I'm in school.
He is going to give me the lump sum of money and money from the rental property each month.
I sold my car, switched phone plans and cancelled my alarm system. He is giving me his work truck to drive. All in all, I'm saving about $450/ month. I can cash in my annuities to stretch out my finances until I get a job.
I think I can make it! And I feel better knowing I don't have to file (unless he fails to follow through with his part...)
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
... I offered to swing by and pick up the truck on Tuesday. It's just sitting at his friends house. Now he's insisting he can drop it off to me this weekend. He said he needs to detail it because it's really dirty inside (and all of the supplies for that are at my house, so he will be here for a few hours)
I told him while I appreciate it, it wasn't necessary. He insists it needs it.
I really do.not.want.to.see.him.
However, I feel like I need to play nice. He is giving me a car, and I need to make sure he follows through with the lump sum (that will either happen, or not, by the end of August...)
Ugh! I am completely dependent on him for money. I hate it. I was financially sound before we met. I'll be right back there again next year, but until then...
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
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