My H's MLC

[Ssarah]

Matt165 I initially did take the blame and kept looking back saying if I only did this differently, or that differently, we'd have a different outcome. But I am slowly realizing that given my H's upbringing and personality, this was destined to happen for him, the crisis that is. My H has had a wonderful childhood, coming from a very priveleged loving family. The problem is he was never taught to handle stress or be unhappy. If you were unhappy, mom and dad would fix it. If something stressed you out, don't worry you don't have to deal with it, we'll handle it. If you wanted something, they bought it. If you got fed up and threw a tantrum, you were right and mommy would clean up the mess for you. There was never boundaries or consequences. He was appeased his entire life. My H went from living a sheltered life at home, straight to a sheltered life with me. So when we built our house, the responsibilities started to mount, then had our daughter, more responsibility, then our son, boom... explosion. He says now that he just can't be around us. He can't sit around on the weekends. He went from being my daughter's best firend to barely acknowledging her. He needs to be out and free. What scares me is that he is so absolutely adament about the D and I'm afraid if that's rushed then there's no turning back. I know the MLC takes time and I wish he would give us time instead of rushing everything.