P.S. my primary motivation for the above note is to get some feedback to help me become the best ME I can be. However, additionally, I think it will be important to see how H reacts. As I've mentioned, he has a long history of shutting down (not with just me, he's had issues with it in other relationships as well as work). He himself acknowledges this is an issue he needs to work on. I've actually asked him some of the above questions before (even pre-A), and he would never answer. I will definitely be looking for changes in him that will help me feel confident that we can work this out, especially better communication. Being able to discuss the above would certainly be a positive step in the right direction. I think (hope) I'm positioning it in a very non-threatening way.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
