Dropping the rope

[woundedfool]

I did go out with some friends the other night for an 'adult night' lol but I doubt that counts.

IMhO, it doesn't. But it is good to go out an blow off steam. While you don't say it (and I am not accusing you of doing it), be careful of how much you talk about D & WAH, be mindful it doesn't dominate the conversation. Essentially, don't let it define you.

I know I need to do things for me but honestly when I'm not at work I am with the boys. And that's what makes me happy. We are like the 3 musketeers and I wouldn't have it any other way right now.

Having that connection is good, just be mindful that they are not totally filling the void.

When H starts taking the boys on days I'm off I will have to start finding things I want to do to occupy myself because I know it will be hard since the boys and I are in such a routine of being together.

Exactly! But try to make some inroads of a GAL for YOU before that happens.

Do you think H is ever going to get off the crazy train?

If I had a crystal ball, I would venture a guess. But that is for HIM to come out of his own fog. Much like an addict.... it may take hitting a bottom before some fog lifts. I am not suggesting you wait forever (or at all), but it could be a few months, a few years or never.

I am getting better on detaching. Last night I actually packed up all his stuff out of my closet and dressers.

Good, but make sure you packed them with reasonable care & don't damage anything.... take pictures of how you have the stuff packed (that way he can't go into the D process saying: "look, she bleached all my clothes, and put them in garbage bags".

And the now 19 year old (lol ;)) can continue with her immature nonsense. Hopefully H will wake up and get sick of her sh!t

Kind of like I posted above... she is 19... that is what 19 year olds do, don't shake the dirty end of the stick at her for "immature nonsense". It would be similar to getting upset at a fish for swimming.

Plus, my gut says she will leave him... not the other way around. I like to gamble: so I am taking bets at 3:2 that she is the one who ends it.