First, your illness wasn't you letting anyone down. Have some compassion for yourself. We have this wacky mindset that somehow we control our illnesses-we don't. If your H believes that, he'll just have to live life unhappy about all the things he can't control.
I had to have the "your drinking is a problem for me" talk with my H, although I didn't do it quite that artfully.
Have you ever gone to AlAnon? It took a long time for me to get there but when I did, I wondered why I waited. You might want to get some support there before you have the talk.
You have no control over his drinking. You only control you.
It's OK to not want to live with someone who is in active addiction. As I said above, we only control ourselves and so we can only save ourselves.
((( ))) I wish you the best.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
