As mentioned, I did #1, #2, & #3 from my earlier post. After I offered my information, I left it alone.
I am not 100% certain that he wants me removed from his family, as he did invite me to that upcoming family function & is keeping me quite informed of his very personal/private real estate transaction. Information/details that I believe he would only tell me & his close family members. There is still trust. Calling me to bounce ideas off me & to inform me.
As for his mom, I feel he is doing what he thinks is best for his mom and our situation. Having his aunt come (moms sister) to care for her, and not removing me from my job... as we need to sell sell sell so that he can buy the location & or we need to move our location & quick! (there is a time limit). If we do not buy this property, we will be scrambling last minute to find a storage property for our inventory (expensive). Therefore, he wants my efforts to remain with the business. He feels his aunt will be sufficient for the job of his mom. <<<<< This is what I believe. No feelings attached coming from his well thought out logistics.
As pointed out earlier.. he is 100% focused on this real estate transaction & not much more room for anything else, especially a R with me or anyone. Add in the now added stress of home care for his mom. <<<< this is the very thing he was soooo worried would happen. That he would be a 50+ year old man living/caring for his aging mom. He was so desperate to get out of that house & enjoy a life before having to care for her.
As you ALL say... DB'ing & detaching doesn't mean I can't be kind or thoughtful. I just have to not attach expectations to those actions. I have been looking online for ways to "let go without expectations".... one of the common comments are to live in the moment & to go more with the flow, etc. <<< I am working on this. And again, realizing my full value. <<<<< I seem to let this slide to accommodate the situation (NOT GOOD)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
