Why dont you just tell her? Say "If you want this D, then there will be no family activities together, no vacations, no lunches, no holidays together, no talking on the phone, none of that Sh*t." I told my W as soon as we separated that we would not be friends of any kind. Said that I would rather not have her at all than to just be friends. She of course didnt like that and asked why. I just said that I wasnt going to put myself through that. Just my 2 cents. Im sure a vet will come and dispute what Im saying.
How does that help your children?
This sounds like the emotional response of an adolescent-which most of us are stuck in when we come here, so don't take it personally. We stomp our foot, with hands on hips and say, "If I can't have what I want, then everyone suffers!"
If you can't do those things with you W, then don't but be honest with yourself about why you can't.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
