She says she's conflicted

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Very pleased to hear things are headed in some kind of workable direction Ox.

25years above has summed up what I was going to say in much more detail.

My grandfather once said,
"Three sides to every story, your's, mine and the ****ing truth"

That's very true in our situations.
When it seems totally unfair that you have to fight back to win your wife from an OM, remember that few wives are straight out cold hearted b*tches.

SOMETHING made them do that. I hope, one day soon she can express what it was, amd you can use it to move forward.

She says it was a cry for help