Stop talking about your R with him. You are making it worse by doing so. I understand that you feel like he is abandoning you, but it seems when you say stuff about it, you are only making him angry and defensive. You dont want to be walked on, I get that. I dont either.
You have a few things here working for you too though that you might not realize.
1. He cares enough to try to "lie" to you about the OW. You still dont know if he is done with her or not. You just think you know.
2."It's not what I want"- thats a direct quote from him. It doesnt sound like this is a permanent decision from him at all. Youre going to push it to be permanent though.
3." In doing this, I have realized that I still love you and will remain loving you no matter what. My feelings are hurt too"-another direct quote from him. Give him some space to figure this out. It isnt going to happen overnight.
You didnt screw it up, but you need to stop pushing him now. The more you push him, the more he is going to go the other way. Talk to him in a civil tone about anything other than your R unless he brings that up.
And what are these 2 issues that he remembers dealing with?
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
