Dont mistake that like some do. It DOES NOT say to date or have sex with other women. It simply says to flirt with and mingle with. That is just to build confidence in you. Like I said though, that is not right for all situations, but I think it could be for yours. It certainly helped with mine.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
Heh man. Great find. Thank you sooo much. Letting go is hard. I worry that if I let go she definitely won't come back. But, ofcourse, I know she DEFINITELY won't come back if I continue to hold on....
M 35 W 31 D 10 Married 3 years Together 11 Single since Nov 13 Moved out Dec 13 ILYBNILWY, 'I don't want to be a boring housewife, 'I don't fancy you any more' OM confirmed Jun 14
Probably time to make a new thread before this gets locked buddy. The best part about that is that you can go back on it if it isnt working for you. But I bet you will see results from it if you follow it.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
M 35 W 31 D 10 Married 3 years Together 11 Single since Nov 13 Moved out Dec 13 ILYBNILWY, 'I don't want to be a boring housewife, 'I don't fancy you any more' OM confirmed Jun 14
"All the while the simple facts and reality that the men who usually have the most succes getting the woman to come back are the ones who let them go the fastest and leave the woman alone the quickest. The men who go out and start getting a life, having fun, mingling and flirting with the opposite sex and living and loving life to the fullest. They stop whining, stop complaining, stop venting, stop journaling and START DOING.. "
September will be the one year anniversary for me from BD; WAW still lives in apartment with S7 and I, and in that year has started and finished two affairs and is involved in third at present. I have made many mistakes along the way; the biggest being too needy and trying to hold on which makes her pull away harder. The original author of this thread does not live with his WAW and seems to see the best results when he goes the darkest and GAL.
Is my living arrangement hurting my efforts; making it almost impossible to go dark? Is there anyone here who has had good luck encouraging their WAW to end the relationship and get out on their own so they are able to more effectively do the 180 activities and go dark? I am thinking that the limbo that I am in is being caused by this; that more of the same is not fixing the problem.
Sometimes it is easier to get clarity on what needs to be done when we look at what others have done to resolve their problems.
Me37, W30, S7 Married 10yrs 05/11/04 ILYBINILWY 22/09/13 Disc. OM1 26/09/13 Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14 Affair Confession 21/06/14
W and I share same apartment (for a few more days). W isn't pushing for D.
Another question. If he does ask for a separation and to see a lawyer how do I respond to that. Do I just say ok. ???
MOMO do you have your own thread? I hope so b/c you can get help easier if we all follow you on a thread of your own. (When I first came here I just jumped in on other people's threads too, b/c I didn't know how or where to post my own. But it's there in the forums and the "how to" questions and answers. Trust me, there ARE ways to help you get thru this and maybe slow it down or turn it around.
Don't disappear!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
