Hurt and Confussed

[Thornton]

So sorry, oad.

I know it's an emotional time for you, allow yourself to feel this. The only way through it is through it. I know, not easy to do.

Just know that there are so many stories of reconciliation after a D was filed (even after D became final).

Your story is not over. Keep DB'ing.

[GoatGal]

Sorry, oad.

But pilot is right.

It ain't over til it's over.

And there is something about a fat lady singing.


This is "Divorce Busting".
Now you've got one to bust.

I'm also in the "fight club", got served on my birthday in February.
It might help you to know that although my H says he wants a divorce, he sure as hell isn't acting like it.

He's acting more like a whipped puppy at this stage.

Chin up, assume a grounded stance.
This is where it gets really interesting...

Meanwhile, lean here a bit and catch your breath.

--GG

[T-boned]

Oh, Oad, I'm so sorry. Ya, even though you know it's coming, it's an emotionally lousy day when that arrives. That document is sitting there in your hands and it seems to be something that mocks the serious committment you made to someone. Someone you gave all your trust and all your heart to. Bat rastards!

But then there's that realization that they've fallen for the divorce fallacy. Remember the thing Michelle talks about in the beginning of DR? LIfe is not a dress rehearsal, you shouldn't stay with someone because you are not 'happy', the children will be fine - they're malliable! Gag!

So like Goat Girl said, "this is where is gets really interesting and to lean here and catch your breath."

I've got your back, too. (())

[oad]

goatgal...thank you..im sure tomorrow I will be back in action..but for right now all I want to tell her is to go f@#$% herself and I hope she goes to hell....lol there I feel a little better. how was it that your husband now seems to be eating crow? what did you do? detach...I gotta go check youre sitch..be back in a few.

[Ben2010]

That of course would make you feel alot better...until about 3 minutes after you said it. Then you would regret every bit of it. Might even make you feel worse than you do now. Probably not so angry, but more of a sad feeling. Stay calm and have dignity here.

[oad]

Ben that's why I said it here...lol I know we have all felt like saying that at one point or another..im gonna follow sandi2 advice...indifference, I already was there for her the other day..now im not available...;)

[Ben2010]

I personally like the "not available" position. I think that if they wanted us to be available then they would be right here with us. Good call.

[oad]

yesterday right after she filed she texted me random texts of which she already knew the answers to..one of them was odd, went like this:

w- were you at the house today? I came home and the back door was open.

m- yes I went by to get some clothes for the girls and the maid was there.

w- oh ok, I was not aware that the made switched her day and was here.

m- you didn't notice the house was clean?

w- yes I did notice

so I ended the texting right there, ever since I left the house has been a wreck...now im going back to being indifferent and minimum contact, only about the girls.

[oad]

I also need to correct...I wasn't served, my lawyer got the efiling...so she filed divorce petition yesterday. still sux though.

[oad]

today my lawyer talked to her lawyer and he told her that all my client cares about is the well being of his children, if they wish to send this to litigation that my lawyer will charge her for his time. Her lawyer then said not to worry about answering the petition that she will offer us an indeffinate amount of time to answer and that my stbxw is cool with that. So her lawyer said they will draw up the marital agreement papers for us, meanwhile my wife is completely broke..