Have I any hope...?

[Ben2010]

Well I have read your sitch before, but I did reread the last 2 pages here. It doesnt look that bad to me man. You have seen some things that are working. Going dark, being a little mysterious and validating for example. I would say that you keep at it with the going dark. I think that in certain situations there are different ways to do this. I will post something that I found on here that made me feel way better about going dark. But overall I dont think you are in a bad sitch at all. Much better than some on here. Anyway here is the post I was talking about.

The majority of men on here struggling just can't seem to let go. It is nothing more than low self esteem and lack of confidence. To top it off, I don't see much of a success rate with the tactics and methods the men are using on this site a working very well. We have men who have been on here from 2 weeks to over two years. Same methods being used by most all and same results happening to most all..

I guess the men who have been on here for so long just need a "little more patience" and understanding before she wakes up...

Maybe tomorrow huh? Maybe three years is the key......


All the while the simple facts and reality that the men who usually have the most succes getting the woman to come back are the ones who let them go the fastest and leave the woman alone the quickest. The men who go out and start getting a life, having fun, mingling and flirting with the opposite sex and living and loving life to the fullest. They stop whining, stop complaining, stop venting, stop journaling and START DOING..

Those are the men who succeed. The evidence is all around these men struggling, but they fail to see....

I wonder why that is?

See if that makes you feel any better about detaching and going dark.