Thank you Sandi. I will definitely be implementing something along those lines I just didn't know how to DB it because he will think this is me being the controlling bitch that he says I am. So it's hard for me to not be 'available' to answer questions about the boys because whenever I don't answer he flips out and involves my family.
I used to respond to him when he would ask me my schedule (so he could avoid seeing me) that - 'H you are more than welcome to see the boys whenever you'd like as long as we have enough notice, just send me a text or call me so I can make sure the boys are available.'
That shot him through the roof. He would text my mom and call my dad threatening to send the police over lol. So ever since then and after my coaching session I have textd him the schedule in advance. It has definitely lessened the conversation. But as I've told you all he mentions stupid things and will send me repetitive texts. And I also agree, as does my L, he does not have any right to ask for the kids less than 24 hours prior. He is doing this because he knows I will have plans and that it will make it look like I am keeping the boys from him. Which is why I called his bluff a few weeks ago (per my L advice) and he strangely couldn't take them
I am not his personal secretary and my love (as well as my parents) for these blys have made it very easy for him to live his life and have this new relationship. Going out of town every weekend like not a care in the world. Which don't get me wrong I am fine with it but quit posting on fb or texting our mutual friends about how I'm using the boys as leverage.
I will see H tonight, well he 'knows' there is basketball so we will see haha. I don't even think I'll be able to muster up a hello after these last few days. I know I should be the better person and do it
