Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 3

[25yearsmlc]

Ive only got the divorce busting book.. ive read the 5ll.. love must be tough.. married mans sex life primer..

Ive finished the db book but I think I should read it over again atleast 3 more times.

Makes sense. The Div Remedy book is really the 2nd edition of the first DB book and spends more time on techniques than on how bad an idea divorce is.

But DB is very useful for sure. Seems you believe that since the last part of the "instruction manual" says that when all the exercises and methods have been attempted for sufficient amounts of time and yet still fail, you must move on.

How is it that you refuse to try the methods (aside from a few word changes) for any amount of time and now feel all is lost?

I mean, talk about skipping ahead. You skipped THE WORK IN THE BOOK.

Is it that you want us to tell you which single page you must "do" and THEN we can guarantee you a positive result?

B/c that's a shortcut fantasy...and it keeps you spinning in place, instead of moving in a direction, by actually implementing the work.

You said you are in IT, right? So if someone presents you with a problem, do you say "I should give up NOW, without trying anything --- b/c whatever problem solving exists, might not work?"

No, you'd explore the problems and try different approaches until you solved the problem.

That's called problem solving. Do that. With yourself, by working on yourself and changing your behaviors.

You might think that it requires you to change your mental attitude first, OR your attitude may change - after - you change the behaviors. But DO CHANGE.

Start by DOING things differently, just like the book says. Give it a chance and do not mix up approaches, or you do a disservice to all of them.

Give Div Busting a REAL chance. That takes time. Use it wisely.