Grey, if this doesn't prove to you that you are FIXATED on this to an unhealthy degree, nothing will.
I'm confused even worse now.
I came here to talk about this issue. I have other places to talk about art, or where I write, events I'm planning, I came here FOR advice about why I feel so alone from being rejected...then I get scorned for it.
I don't obsess. It seems like it here BECAUSE I'm here to talk about it.