WH - One word of advice on your washer - get the metal braided hoses to connect it. The plain rubber hoses, if they burst (which they do sometimes when they get old) will spray water all over the place, causing lots of damage (speaking from experience - happened to me in my garage, sprayed tons of stuff).
The metal wrapped ones, while the rubber inside can still burst, will keep the water from spraying like that (although it will still flood.) They're not that expensive at Home Depot or the like, and a good investment in peace of mind.
I picked up the dryer and was scared sh*tless all the way home. The guy who loaded it said if I hit the brakes too hard my back window would smash. Talk about a long drive home. My neighbor helped me bring it in and turns out the outlet prong didn't fit the wall plug. Nice. So when I pick up tie washer I will need to get a new cord. Then I realized I need a pipe to vent the dryer out. I also need a nut wrench to remove the cord from the dryer. Bah!!! So frustrating!
Then S couldn't find his phone this morning so I told him I would find it. I called H to see if he was home and they were so I decided to run it over to the house since I needed to go to the hardware store by the house. Of course, OW was there. Supper was cooking on the stove and there was a huge pile of mulch in the driveway. Flowers were in pots on either side of the entryway and OW's yappy little dog was barking away. My kids looked shell-shocked. D was outside on the swing all by herself. She looked really sad.
I don't know why, but this rage just boiled to the top. I held it in but had to leave right away. I was disappointed in myself. I was doing so well. I didn't expect such a setback.
My friend said I am just overwhelmed with my day and the fact that I am doing stuff by myself and I CAN do stuff for myself and then knowing J is "taking care" of OW. I guess it all bubbled to the top and popped.
I don't want the house and I don't want J but I'm fighting this rage that I need justice. It seems J got everything he wanted all wrapped up with a pretty bow. I feel he needs to pay for what he did. I can't do that. And it's not dropping the rope. But I need to acknowledge that is how I feel. The only way to deal with the pain is to go through it, not around it.
I wish healing wasn't such hard work.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Umm...he IS getting what he deserves. A woman on disability, a mortgage on a house with no equity, bills to pay and no skills to budget with, kids who are unhappy with him. Doesn't sound like he grabbed the brass ring now, does it?
I know the reality of the situation. Which is why I am so irritated with myself for the setback. I feel better now.
And now that I have all ties cut from J (other than the kids) now karma can come in and really do it's magic. I hope a tree falls on the house or a pipe bursts and floods it. When the kids and the dog aren't there of course.
I will make it just fine without J. In fact I am far better off without him than I ever was with him. I just got caught up in the emotion of the moment. Now I can move on.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
There is a great French comic book where in one series a big armoire falls on people who do bad things!! Just out of the blue. So funny.
Fantasy land or what? it would be so nice if they would clear up their side of the street, and acknowledge responsibility for the pain and devastation they caused to everyone else in pursuit of their dream.
I had a frustrating day trying to get this washer and dryer installed. The landlord came to help me unload it off my car and said he needed to get some longer hoses for installing the washer. I got the new cord for the dryer and even though it fits the outlet (four prong) the outlet is backward to the cord (long story) and the plug won't go in. Landlord said he would get me a new cord but he won't have time until Saturday afternoon/Sunday. At least it's in my home now and I have it. Baby steps.
OW showed up at D's bb game, cane and all. I ignored her and she went away. Like a wart. I guess J is already putting her to work picking up the kids when he can't get home in time. I bet that's going to happen more and more frequently. Sounds familiar. I heard OW say something snippy toward my daughter and I fought off the mama bear claws. I just kissed D and told her what a lovely girl she is and asked her about her day. She clung to me.
I tried to get a hold of S all night and his phone wasn't working because "someone" didn't pay the bill. Oh and did I mention that the house phone and S's phone are on the same account so I could not call the house phone either. I tried H but he didn't have his phone. WTF? S eventually got a hold of his girlfriend and had her send me a poem: "I see what he can't, she's running around with the devil's rant...all these lies are made from the devil's eyes."
Talk about creepy. I freaked out and asked her to have him contact me right away. He did and he said he really can't stand her. She wants to send the dog to obedience school because I guess the dog is completely out of control since I left and H left her in charge of the dog! Lol! I guess he's been using the house as a bathroom and running away from her (the dog, not J) and isn't coming when he's called. J won't pay to board the dog he certainly is not going to pay for dog obedience. Besides, the dog has been to obedience class. He is very smart. Apparently smarter than OW.
So now the drama is done and the secret is out. Now chit starts getting real I guess. Who wants popcorn?
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Forgot to mention that J complained to me that D wasn't eating her lunch. I said she ate the lunch that I packed so I don't know. He said he was tired of it and wanted it stopped. I said well short of force feeding her I don't know what you are going to do. She will eat if she's hungry. He said it wasn't healthy. I said I understand but you have no control over it. Let it go. He didn't like that.
I am not fighting his battles for him. He can handle this one on his own.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Plenty of seats on the sidewalk to watch the circus parade go by and yes, we are serving up all the popcorn you can eat. WH, sit quietly and all will be revealed. It's not what I would call a happy home over there w/J and the ow.
Glad to see you've gotten your washer and dryer. It won't be long before you'll be doing your laundry at your place. You are accomplishing a lot in a very short time.
Enjoy your weekend!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
