Save me from myself, need true guidance.

[RedHawk98]

Speech was the wrong word I guess. I meant speaking your mind on those core beliefs. Regardless of outcome.

I was advised against that doing that in the beginning. The worst piece of crap advice I ever received.

I'd have to go back and read the context of that advice, Hawk (assuming that it was given here? on the forum?) Sometimes posters advise you not to do something or say something because we can TELL that you might be coming across as angry, spiteful, vindictive, etc. Boundaries should be done from a place of calm confidence, because they are "The Right Thing to Do," and NOT from a place of anger or spite or shaming.


Starsky

No this was advice from my wife's family.
"Give her space", "She needs to soul search", "I don't know when she's coming back but keep up the good work" etc

Translated at the time as "Shut up and let her bang this other dude until she makes up her mind"

Sorry to hijack the thread.