It's very important to him that we remain friends and on friendly terms. I told him Im not sure i can ever be friends with someone who put no effort in to saving our marriage.
He says that nothing is changing in his life. He's going to do his own thing during the week at work and still come home on weekends to see kids. I feel like I can't really kick him out as Im a stay at home mom & he pays all the bills and gives me a weekly allowance. But if I'm still here taking care of kids on weekends, he's here to do fun stuff with them. Nothing is changing. I know it's easier to DB in the same house but I feel like he needs to see we aren't all sitting here waiting for him to come home. And then hang out & chit chat like normal. He sleeps in spare room since we brought Baby #3 home from hospital.
He said he still was not sure if things were over with us. I feel like he wants to do what he wants for however long & then maybe or maybe not decide to be my husband again.
Do I leave our house on the weekends & leave him with all the kid responsibilities- dinner, baths etc.? because right now I'm still doing everything. I feel like he is "cake eating" big time.
I gave my wife pretty much the same "friends" talk (see my post earlier today on Corbean's thread on the Infidelity forum), so I'm with you there, Sam.
I do also agree with you that you should NOT be there all weekend with them. If your husband wants to basically "fire" you as his wife, and quit his family (or at other times, waffle about his commitment to you guys) then there's no time like the present for him to put on his BBPs (Big-Boy Pants) and start living the life of a single father, and all that entails.
Just my opinion, and I haven't read all of your backstory yet.
