Not sure I understand completely... do you mean, this isn't necessarily "the rubber band effect", this is just how life is? Sometimes they feel close, connected, and giving, and sometimes they feel distant and removed?
If so, then I guess the goal is to accept people as they are, where they are... Accept what they have to give when they give it...but give them space and freedom to not give it when that isn't where they are.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
